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Help Your Child Move through the Bad Feelings

I Love You So Big! Blog – Lynne Namka, © 2011-13

“We are as happy as we are able to be responsible for our own feelings and behavior. The superior man or woman is always open to the possibility that there may be another reality other than the one seen through the lens of their life.” – Lynne Namka, Your Quick Anger Makeover Plus Twenty Other Cutting-Edge Techniques to Release Anger!

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Emotions rule! One of the best things we can teach our children is how to work effectively with their feelings. Show them it is their choice to own their feeling and give it a name, instead of ignoring, repressing, judging it or blaming someone else.

1. Identify the angry feeling, which is on top. Give the feeling a name. Say, “I’m angry.”

2. Allow yourself to actually feel the feeling. Stay with it. Don’t rationalize it away.

3. Own the feeling. Be responsible for it.

4. Accept the feeling. Do not judge it or make yourself bad for having it. Say, “I’m feeling angry. I’m mad that I did not get what I wanted.” Do not blame others. Stick with your own feelings. The only person we can change is our self – to dwell on how others do not meet our needs keeps you in anger or depression.

5. Observe the uncomfortable feeling. Just watch it. Spy on it like you are a detective. Feelings come and go. Feelings are meant to be felt. That is why they are called feelings. It will pass if you just watch it.

6. Breathe into your feeling. They are just feelings to be tapped and breathed away! Tap all over your body while you have distressing feelings and breathe deeply. Start between your eyebrows, outside your eyes, on your cheekbones and above and below your lips. Then go to your collarbones and tap across and down your body, then up and down your arms and legs. Go around your wrists and ankles. Chances are you might shift your feeling through this tapping.

Emotions rule! One of the best things we can teach our children is how to work effectively with their feelings. My book, Your Quick Anger Makeover Plus Twenty Other Cutting-Edge Techniques to Release Anger!gives many exercises to identify and release unwanted feelings. In the book I say, “Make a rule for yourself: “If I feel it, I own it. I choose to get honest with myself. I can work this out or I can act it out. If I spot it, I got it! I’ll stay with it and breathe into it.” Move your attention to the meaning that your feeling of anger has. It may signal a boundary you need to set or hide a personal limitation regarding your self-esteem that you have and can’t look at. Listen to what your anger has to say.”

Being responsible for your feelings gives you the freedom to deal with them. Your choice to own your feeling, and give it a name instead of ignoring, repressing, judging it or blaming someone else gives you the power. You are in charge of your feelings, instead of your feelings being in control of you!

Keep reminding your child and teens that we are as mature as we are able to take responsibility for our own thoughts, words and actions: Say out loud for your child, “What is your part in setting this situation up? Remember behavior is a product of how you think. What can you learn about yourself so you don’t repeat this mistake?”

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