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Could You Just Listen? – Sage Advice from an Anonymous Source

I Love You So Big! Blog – Lynne Namka, © 2011-13

The most deadly of all sins is the mutilation of a child’s spirit. – Erik Erikson

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk to or do – just hear me.

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When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. Please, just listen and hear me.

Advice is cheap; 35 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same paper.

I can do for myself; I’m not helpless – maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.

But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about this business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling. When that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.

Irrational feelings make more sense when we understand what’s behind them.

Perhaps that’s why prayer works, sometimes, for some people – because God is mute, and He/She doesn’t give advice or try to fix things. “They” just listen and let you work it out for yourself.

So please listen and just hear me.

And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn – and I’ll listen to you.

Here’s some advice about listening to your Inner Wisdom from my book on anger management techniques, Your Quick Anger Makeover Plus Twenty Other Cutting-Edge Techniques to Release Anger!

“Daily listening rituals for healing are part of becoming a loving, calm person. You can set yourself free from unwanted emotions and problems if you are willing to take the time to do the work. There are loving spiritual forces around us that are waiting for an invitation to help as described by the anonymous saying, “We entertain angels unawares.” You can call on your God, guides and teachers and spiritual deities you believe in from higher realms to assist you in achieving peace. You can download higher frequencies from above through intention and asking for what you want. We can always ask for clarification about an issue that is troubling us. To increase your own healing ability, set your intention for change with love. Take a long, slow, deep breath and hold it while focusing on love. Go deeper into love and see healing as happening now. See, feel and experience the power of love plus intention as a powerful change agent in your life.”

To improve your relationships and learn more about improving your listening skills, we recommend the book The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols.

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