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Chill Out Helper Words

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“So think as if your every thought were to be etched in fire upon the sky for all and everything to see. For so, in truth, it is. So speak as if the world entire were but a single ear intent upon hearing what you say. For so, in truth, it is.So do as if your every deed were to recoil upon your head. For so, in truth, it is. So wish as if you were the truth. And so, in truth, you are.” – Mikhail Nimay,  Book of Mirdad

Listen to yourself, your spouse and other members of your household. What is the quality of the ways you speak to each other? If there are sharp tongues, sarcasm and loud tones in your household, your child will use the same kind of talk. Children act out what they hear in the home. You can’t expect your child to be loving if you or someone else in your home is critical and rude. If you or someone else in the family is constantly irritable or angry, then take responsibility for it and get some professional help. Parent to child anger and vice versa gets worse during the teen years. Yeah, if it is broke, fix it.

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If you want to have a peaceful household, it is absolutely imperative that family members learn some cool down techniques to deal with anger.

If you want to have a peaceful household, it is absolutely imperative that family members learn some cool down techniques to deal with anger. Talk to your family about stopping the sharp tongues and sarcasm. Tell them you are starting a new family tradition of learning to express anger in safe, appropriate ways.

Learn to bite your tongue and fire up your Inner Censor when you are having a “Teen Intensive Day.” Stop yourself from blurting out whatever comes to your mind. Do some isolation yourself to get away when it becomes too challenging. Teach your child Chill Out Words Helper Words by modeling them yourself when you are upset.

  • I can handle this. I tell myself to calm down.
  • I remind myself to breathe deeply and cool down.
  • I’ll take a moment to chill. I’ll turn my hot thoughts down.
  • I’d better take a time out and go somewhere to reflect on this.
  • My bad feelings come and go. I can let them go if I share them.
  • It is okay to be angry. I can talk about my anger.

Keep telling your child that they are responsible for how they think. They can learn and use more productive ways of thinking that will empower them. Your own use use of cool-down words when you are upset gives your child positive messages to carry around when you are not present. You model the very behavior that you want from your child. The small amount of time that you spend in teaching your child chill down statements will save you from time spent on reprimands.

Speak with love when you discipline your children. More parenting information is available at www.angriesout.com. Learn more about helping your child with angry feelings from my article A Letter to Parents of Children with Problems of Anger.



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