Information on Children's Behavior: What the Research Says!
Lynne Namka, Ed. D. - © 2007
Doomed to Succeed
Some self-destructive young people have difficulty with tolerating success
which keeps them from making changes. The most common defenses identified were isolation, refusing to take
responsibility for their actions, resistance to input from adults and idealization of negative role models.
Some Aggression Causes High Self-Esteem-Well, Not Really
Incarcerated adolescents showed an
actual boost of self-esteem after engaging in aggressive behavior against peers and authorities! They used
aggressive behavior to offset the feelings of shame inside. Shame and excessive pride in acting tough are part of
the dynamics, which help keep adolescents engaging in gang and other violent behaviors. There may be a release of
endorphins-those ‘feel good’ brain chemicals-which adds to feeling good. Of course, the feeling good about hurting
others is not true self-esteem-it is a false self-esteem of feeling momentarily good while feeling worse deep
within. The youngster becomes defensive so that he cannot acknowledge the bad feelings inside.
Decline of Children’s Positive Values with Age
Some children’s positive values start to erode
as they grow older. A recent poll showed a significant percentage of children admitted to cheating on a test or
stealing around age eleven or twelve. This decrease in morality is possibly due to negative peer influences and
seeing other children get away with misbehavior.
Fear of the Big D-Divorce
One of the biggest weights on children is family fighting and the
fear of divorce. Marital conflict is on of the biggest stressors on children. This topic is so important that the
Journal of Family Psychology devoted an entire issue to the effects of family discord on young people. (Vol. 8,
Moving Around and Changing Schools Hurt Children
Children whose parents relocate often tend to
have more behavior problems, according to a new study. I’ve often told clients that their parents’ moving often had
an effect on their personality as they learned not to make deep friends because they feared that they would be
taken away with the next move. Moving often is especially hard on shy children who are slow to make new friends. A
recent study of 3,285 children showed that children who changed schools the most had more behavioral
Continued awareness of these issues and others that affect children's social development is the key to helping
young people progress in a positive manner.
Lynne Namka, Ed. D. is a happy psychologist, mom, grandmother, author of anger release books and
founder of Talk, Trust & Feel Therapeutics. Her is mission is to promote peace in the world by
teaching people positive communication skills. Helpful information and techniques can be found at
www.AngriesOut.com and www.TimeToLoveYourself.com. Copyright © 2007 Lynne Namka, Ed.D. All rights
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